Brief introduction
Ancient Chinese wedding "six rites" two. Also said: "ask the name: ask the name, will return to divination its good or bad luck." The book of rites notes on Fang also says, "if you ask for a name, ask for a girl's mother." Ask the name, with wild goose for Zhijian gift. The fourth volume of baihutong, marriage, says: "accept and collect, ask for names Naji, Qiuqi, Qinying, yiyanzhi. Nazheng was called xuanmi, so Yanzhi was not used. "
After receiving the ceremony, the man asked the matchmaker to ask the woman's name, date and time of birth, so that the man could make a divination and decide whether to marry or not, and what's the good or bad luck. Or think ask name is the man sent messenger to ask the woman's birth mother's surname, in order to distinguish Di Shu. The scope of the latter name extended to the family, position, property, appearance, health and other aspects. Ask the name also must carry the gift, generally uses the wild goose. Betel nut is often used as a gift for the ethnic minorities in Hainan and southwest China. After divining the date of birth of the woman and the man, we can make sure that they can get married and then perform Naji rites.
Marriage etiquette is the second of the six. That is, the man sent a matchmaker to the woman's house to ask her name and birthday. After taking back the Geng paste, Buji combined with eight characters. "Yili · shihunli" says: "the guest holds the wild goose, please ask the name; the master Xu, the guest gives it." Zheng Xuan's note: "those who ask for names will be able to predict their good or bad luck." Jia gongyanshu: "ask the name, ask the name of the woman."
Customs
"Yili · shihunli" says: "the guest holds the wild goose, please ask the name; the master Xu, the guest gives it." Zheng Xuan's note: "those who ask for names will be able to predict their good or bad luck." Jia gongyanshu: "ask the name, ask the name of the woman." During the Eastern Han, Wei and Jin Dynasties, affected by the war environment at that time, many people got married in a hurry, and the six rites were not prepared, so the ceremony of asking for names naturally did not go. Du you's "Tongdian" said: "since the Eastern Han Dynasty, Wei and Jin Dynasties, it has been difficult, good luck at the age of, eager to get married I will give up the six rites. " After the Sui and Tang Dynasties, the "six rites" also prevailed among the rich businessmen. Li Zhi, the history of the Song Dynasty, stipulates the etiquette system of the Song Dynasty: "the wedding ceremony of the common people, asking for the name of naicai, and asking for the date of naizheng." In Song Dynasty, it was also called "tie arm". In the new collection of Shi Wen Lei Ju · Hanmo Quan Shu Yi Ji 4, it is said: "there are six ancient rituals for wedding, and the family rituals of Wengong are simple. The first day of marriage, I will accept the money and ask if it is attached to my name; the next day, I will accept the money and ask if it is attached to my date; the next day, I will greet you personally. To accept is to tie the arm now, to accept the coin is to appoint now, and to invite is to urge the make-up now. When the wedding comes, the wedding will be finished. " It can be seen from the phrase "asking for a name is to tie the arm today", that the engagement in Song Dynasty was probably to tie the arm with gauze to show that the two sides had been married. It can be said that "a thousand miles marriage leads by a thread".
It is said in the marriage of scholars and commoners issued in the 10th year of Jiajing reign of the Ming Dynasty that "it has been a long time since we asked for names and accepted auspicious gifts. We should stop imitating the family rites to accept and collect money and welcome them in person." In modern times, the ceremony of asking for fame has been merged with naicai, which is commonly known as "Fa Mei". According to Hu Pu'an's first volume 7 of the annals of Chinese customs, Shaanxi etiquette Xianyang county annals, it is said that the county's custom is similar to that of the media. Gai Xiantong said that the master told the temple and had a Book banquet. The medium goes to the female surname, uses the wild goose. If YANGJIU made a speech, the hostess also told the temple to reply. There are letters of enlightenment, each with the names of men and women, date of birth. "
Taboo
Asking for names is also one of the six rites. Those who ask for names ask for female characters. Chinese folk culture is often combined with betrothal gifts. The latter name extends to the family, property, age, position, appearance, health and so on. It may have originated from the system of registering the date of birth and the names of unmarried men and women in the Zhou Dynasty. It was originally used to distinguish the age of men and women, but later it was put on a mysterious coat by some fortune tellers, which led to many taboos.
