Song Boji could have been safe in the fire, but she didn't get a good end because of her excessive adherence to etiquette. When the fire started, people in the palace rushed to help song Boji and let her escape. But song Boji refused to leave on the ground that Baofu was not there. In the aristocratic class at that time, the clothing, food, housing and transportation of noble women were usually served by nannies, while the etiquette and morality of noble women were guided and regulated by Fu mu. At that time, it was late at night when the palace where song Boji lived caught fire, and it happened that the nanny and Fu Mu were not there. Song Boji always abides by the etiquette. She is a typical chaste woman. If Baofu doesn't come in the middle of the night, she doesn't dare to walk around.
In the marriage system of the spring and Autumn period, a man must marry himself unless he is the son of Zhou. When song Boji first married to the state of song when she was young, the Duke of song Gonggong didn't personally go to marry him, but sent envoys, which was not in line with the etiquette at that time. At that time, song Boji was very unhappy about this. She didn't want such a husband who didn't understand etiquette and didn't obey etiquette, but it was hard for her parents to shirk their orders, so she finally got on the sedan chair sent by the song Communist Party.
But when she arrived in the state of song, song Boji refused to marry song Gonggong because he didn't go to marry him in person. This can make song Gonggong embarrassed, his daughter-in-law even want to refuse himself thousands of miles. Song Gonggong also quit. He had never seen such a rigid and dogmatic woman, so he sent someone to the state of Lu to find song Boji's mother's family. Later, the state of Lu sent Ji Wenzi to the state of song to persuade song Boji not to be too rigid. You married for the sake of closer relations between the two countries, but not for the sake of etiquette. Besides, Gonggong of Song Dynasty is also the leader of a country. You can't disgrace others like this. Now you have the state of Lu as your backing, but after all, you have married out. It's not a matter of a day or two, it's a matter of a lifetime. You don't know how to be the wife of a country, and how to let the Duke of song treat you.
Later, under Ji Wenzi's persuasion, song Boji and song Gonggong reluctantly entered the bridal chamber and completed the wedding ceremony. You can say that song Boji is rigid and dogmatic, or that she is loyal and obedient and abides by the etiquette. In short, this woman who abides by the etiquette to her heart has been sold in the history of the spring and Autumn period. It was not until the fire of song Jinggong, the great grandson of song Gonggong, that she came into the public view again. It's not uncommon for her to be absent from the history books for decades. First, she is a woman. Second, she once embarrassed song Gonggong. But after several decades, she began to do stupid things again. At that time, the palace people who served her all said that she would leave quickly, regardless of the etiquette. It was important to protect her life. But song Boji just doesn't listen to me. She can be very angry.
But think about song Boji's strict adherence to etiquette and the rules and regulations made by men when she was young. She was at least 70 years old at the time of the fire. It is estimated that only the people around her could feel how archaic an old lady was at that time. At the strict request of song Boji, people rushed to find the nanny, but Fu Mu has not arrived. The servant still begged for nothing to persuade song Boji to save her life. Don't worry about so much.
But this song Boji just doesn't listen, and can make people angry. Those servants did not dare to run for their lives alone. Even if they succeeded in running for their lives, if something happened to song Boji, they would still be responsible for their lives. If you can't help it, you can persuade me. At that time, I didn't know what Fu Mu was doing, but I didn't arrive late. Maybe Fu Mu's brain melon seeds have been running for a long time, and song Boji is still waiting for Fu Mu to take her with him. I don't think about when it will be.
In this way, under the persuasion of the next people, song Boji just didn't go. In the end, the fire burned song Boji and some palace people to death. Song Boji has lived for more than 70 years. It's worth giving up her life and giving up her gifts when she dies. But before the young palace people can embrace their humble life, they have to go with song Boji. After her death, song Boji was set as a benchmark by the princes of the spring and Autumn period and became a model for women. The princes also held a special forum to discuss song Boji's behavior, publicly praised song Boji's behavior, and tried their best to build her into a full model of women's morality. Even in the spring and Autumn period, we all appreciated his so-called behavior of giving up his life and taking gifts.
But this model of women's morality is actually harmful. If it wasn't for her to wait for something to protect Fu, those young palace people would not have died. In the end, she did something stupid and hurtful, but became a model. It's really unreasonable. Thousands of years later, women no longer have to struggle for chastity memorial archway, but such spiritual enslavement still exists, and many fools like song Boji rush forward. They think that they are working for the sage and the country, but in fact they are doing a lot of harm. I think if sage Kong encounters such a thing, he will certainly run for his life first, and he will not be sticking to the rules and waiting for death. We can know this from Mr. Kong's argument of learning and thinking. The so-called learning without thinking is useless, and thinking without learning is dangerous.
